Basics:
* Keep your area (whether it be your bedroom or your luxurious condo) tidy so that other people (such as myself) don't feel tempted to clean it for you.
* Dress to impress, even when going out to the super market--in other words: don't wear belly tops unless you can pull them off.
* Be happy about your personal success and don't roll your eyes at others' happiness. There's enough to go around.
Social Skills:
* Don't mention your guilty habits - such as drug usage or crime record just to try and impress.
* If someone treats you out or advises you to join them on an outing, don't disrespect them or complain about the food / activities.
* Don't judge someone that is not your "task" to judge, especially not a friend's parenting skills or your child's friend's parents - very poorly received.
Family Skills:
* Don't belittle a member of your family, big or small. It will cause you to be resented, and them to carry around emotional baggage of judgment.
* Consider your partner part of your family if you have been dating over 6 months no matter how old you are. Vice versa, if your family member has a partner, accept them unconditionally and welcome them to family events, no matter how old they are.
* If you're the parent or older sibling, let your youngin' have freedom to grow in their own skin. Let them choose their own hobbies, passions and goals with no nudging. Don't live vicariously through your child.
* Outside family should not judge or try to control the parenting habits of distant relatives. For example: I'm not going to do what my uncle tells me to do, and my nephew is not going to do what my mom tells him to do. Know limits and boundaries of family status.
* Make an effort to stay connected with distant family - aunts and uncles must be friends with their nieces and nephews, at least enough for them to feel comfortable to confide when a serious situation arises. Cousins should be close as well.
Romance Skills:
* Trust is an expectation in the dating game. If you break your loyalty or trust, don't expect anything from the other person. Love is a two way street.
* Honesty is the second utmost expectation. If you make a mistake, expect to fess up, or don't expect to stay around.
* Expect to talk about the dirty details of S-E-X before you engage in it. Sure, heat of the moment stuff gets everyone weak-in-the-knees, but a stable, healthy relationship starts with open discussion.
* Flirting with other people can be harmless, but hinting at sexual encounters or thoughts is one step too far. If you want someone to flirt with, flirt with your partner.
Internet Skills:
* Everyone has a different demand from Facebook, but if you plan on adding family friends or strangers, expect to be commenting and "liking" their posts. Don't shut someone off, and don't add to be popular.
* When creating Events on Facebook, be sure to add everyone you could possible think of to include - don't exclude, and don't create private events without notifying your guests not to tell anyone else about that party on Saturday night.
* If someone emails you with a confidential, serious tone, it is customary to respond within 2-3 days. Even more important: if you're faculty, a boss, or an educator, it is better to respond within 24 hours.
* Don't ruin sites like Omegle and Second Life for everybody - keep to pornography sites if you're there for the classless girls that will flash for you.
* Don't argue on a site such as Twitter with a person who you aren't yet well acquainted with. Facebook is for friendly debate and discussion.
* If someone states something harsh or opinionated on their account (example: Facebook), it is not your right, etiquette-speaking, to talk back to them or say something inappropriate. Also not okay to assume what they meant from a generalized statement. If they want to say something, they can. If you want to say something on your page, you can as well.
Outing Skills:
* At more upscale restaurants, eat with both your knife and fork, and always keep your napkin on your lap (I hope you already knew this international custom).
* Don't spit on the streets, it's not sanitary or "cool". Same goes for littering.
* When accessing free WiFi, always purchase a drink or snack from the cafe or nearby service. Very tacky to mooch.
* Dress for the occasion/activity. For example: if you're going to a theme park, wear sneakers, not high-heels. Think practically.
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